Tools For Parents of Athletes
The 24-Hour Rule
Parents/guardians are not allowed to confront a coach, team or league official to discuss any “negative” game or practice situation with the coaching and management staff until at least 24 hours has passed from the completion of the game or practice. A confrontation shall consist of any conversation, which is elevated from a normal speaking tone and demeanor to one which involves yelling, profanity or derogatory comments toward said coach, team or league official.
The Parent/Coach Relationship,
Both parenting and coaching are extremely challenging vocations. By establishing an understanding of each position, we are better able to accept the actions of each other, providing greater benefit to our children. As parents, when your children become involved in our program, you have a right to understand what expectations are placed on your child and the responsibility to allow the coach to coach. This begins with clear communication from the coach of your child’s program.
The First Step: What can a parent do to assist the coach and team?
- Attend all events and be a positive, supporting fan
- Support the coach in the presence of your child
- Try to see things from the coach’s perspective
- Volunteer as a photographer, statistician, parent rep, etc.
Communication you should expect from your son/daughter’s coach
- The philosophy of the coach
- Expectations the coach has for your child and the other players on the squad
- Locations and times of all practices and contests
- Team requirements, i.e. fees, special equipment, off-season conditioning.
- Procedure for injuries during participation
- Discipline that results in the denial of your child’s participation
- Transportation policy to and from contests
Communication coaches expect from parents
- Concerns expressed directly to the coach
- Notification of schedule conflicts well in advance
- Specific concerns regarding a coach’s philosophy and/or expectations
- Any specific information about your child that the coach might need to know
Appropriate concerns to discuss with coaches
- The treatment of your child, mentally and physically
- Ways to help your child improve
- Concerns about your child’s behavior
- Information that the coach needs to know concerning the athlete
Areas of concern that are inappropriate to discuss during the season
- Playing time
- Other athletes
It is difficult to accept your child not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches are professionals. They make judgments based on what they believe to be best for all students involved.
If you have a concern to discuss with a coach, the procedure you should follow is:
Level I: Discussion with coaches for information purposes is encouraged at any time.
- Meeting between coach and player
- Meeting between coach and parents to discuss appropriate concerns
Level II: Discussion with coaches when you have a concern or conflict with the coach.
- Level II meetings will be set up by the Athletic Director. These meetings
will include the coach, Athletic Director, parent, and student-athletes.
Minutes/notes of the meeting will be taken.
- Should be designed to promote a resolution.
- Should not be done before/after a contest, which is an emotional time\
Level III: Meetings with the Superintendent, Athletic Director, coach, parent, and player.
- Level III meetings occur when the resolution is not achieved at Level II meetings
Research indicates that students involved in co-curricular activities have a greater chance for success during adulthood. We hope the information provided within this guide will make both your child’s and your experience with the SPS Athletic Program more enjoyable.
We believe that the Wayne Memorial High School Athletic Program helps develop the character traits that promote a successful life after high school.
Wayne Memorial Students participate in sports because they:
1. Enjoy fitness/working out.
2. It is fun.
3. Enjoy competition
4. Are good at my sport.
5. Understand that participation in sports teaches good life-long skills.
6. Meet new friends
LOWEST – To compete in college
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As youth sports psychology experts, we often work very closely with parents and coaches when we provide mental coaching for young athletes. Parents and coaches who are knowledgeable about "mental game" challenges and strategies are better equipped to instill confidence in their young athletes.
If you are a sports parent or coach, you'll want to learn how to improve your athletes' mental game so they can get the most out of their skills in competition.
Here's just one example of how coaches and parents can improve athletes' mental toughness using proven mental game strategies.
Study – “The Role of Parents in Junior Tennis” (Gould et al. 2004)
The most successful players had families that created an Optimistic, Achievement Oriented Climate
The focused on the core values vs outcomes “Can do attitude”, “Hard work and desire”, “If you do it, do it right.”
Difficult transition families created an outcome Oriented Climate were children were evaluated on their abilities to achieve.
Often resulted in stress. The child’s perceived self-worth was determined by the performance.